Published on November 6th, 2014 | by Ann Rickard0
When The Inner Voice Speaks Out
The older you get the more you talk to yourself.
This is not a big deal. Everyone talks to themselves. Even the very young.
Internal dialogue is good for you, so I’ve read. It is said to help clarify your thoughts and make you smarter.
I don’t know if that is true, but I like it and I’m going with it.
But the downside for the mature person is, this self talk is increasingly done out loud.
This is harmless enough when you are alone in your kitchen or the car or shower.
In fact you are so good at talking out loud you’re excellent company for yourself.
It is when you do it in front of others that it can get embarrassing.
An example: You’re at the library looking at cookery books and are reminded of the delicious triple-layered Belgian chocolate dessert you made last week, dwelling on the dense silkiness of the chocolate, the multi-layers of rich fudge, the crunchy toffee shards on top, and you suddenly blurt out “oh…..yes, yes, yes, that was sooooooooooo good, I want more”.
Well, all the old blokes sitting nearby reading the paper suddenly perk up and eye you off with a frisky expression they haven’t enjoyed for a couple of decades.
Another example: You’re having afternoon tea with the ladies from the book club, nibbling on a cupcake and something in the book reminds you of an old insult a frenemy made to you in 1973 that you didn’t have a comeback for at the time. Now a brilliant one has suddenly popped into your head and your internal mean person says it silently but followed by a loud exclamation of: “Take that, you b***h” and all the ladies around you drop their cupcakes and move away to pass a motion to have you banned from the book club.
Silence is golden, yes, and often best. But try telling that to the mature person.